What would you do, if you found out that your teenage daughter is a compulsive liar??? How can she be fixed? How can you trust her ever again?  

How can she be fixed? Is she broken? 

I think nearly every teenager could fall into the compulsive liar category these days when it comes to communicating with parents. 

if it is that bad put her on lock down. she will have to earn that trust back very slowly. are these like life altering lies, or white lies that are not going to hurt anybody? 

how old is she? 

shake her. 

shake her. That is your answer for most problems LOL 

That is your answer for most problems LOL  Must prove effective. 

That is your answer for most problems LOL haha true.. I wasnt a compulsive liar growing up, but I did get into trouble a lot. My parents took everything away from me. There was one time they even took my bedroom door off the hinges. I say, break her down to the bare essentials of life until she starts to understand how much better life will be when she is honest. My dad lectured respect and responsibility to me a million times. I think I turned out ok ;) So there is hope! 

That is your answer for most problems LOL Must prove effective. Maddie does listen to me.. I tell her Im going to shake her if she doesnt and she doesnt like it. (LOL TOTALLY JOKING HERE!!!!!) 

SHe's 12, 13 in July. Well, it was just lil white lies here and there that her father and I dealt with when they arose, then the toher day, she did something dnagerous and school and tried to say it wasn't her doing. ANybody ever put their child into the kid bootcamp on Camp Pendleton? If so, is it a good program to get a troubled teenager into? 

I think I turned out ok The jury is still out on this one !!!! 

ANybody ever put their child into the kid bootcamp on Camp Pendleton? If so, is it a good program to get a troubled teenager into? If she just started doing this & she is only 12 almost 13 I would NOT send her to bootcamp. From my experience with friends & family that have been forced into it at that age it nevers turns out good. They come out resenting their parents & stepping into far worse things. I agree with Peachy, break her down to absolutely nothing (except necessities. She is at that age where she is learning to be her own person & she is going to push the limits to see just how much she can get away with & how far & long you will let it carry on. You need to be firm but loving at the same time. This is not a time to be lenient (sp). Once you say you are going to do something do it & stick to it. Otherwise if you don't you are only going to give her the upperhand in the situation. 

The jury is still out on this one !!!!  LMAO 

Is there enough communication in your home between you/your husband and your daughter? Has she been warned of consequences of her actions? Are y'all maybe too strict or have been on her in the past? 

I agree with Peachy, break her down to absolutely nothing (except necessities. I remember my Dad doing this to me. I HATED him for it at the time, but now I see why he did it. And now we are really close. Then again, I would rather take a beating then get grounded. haha So I agree. This method would be much more meaningful. It will get her attention quicker. 

You can't change a liar, no matter what age they are. All you can do is tell them that it is wrong. They will have to suffer the consequences of lying on their own accord before they realize why it's wrong. For example, when she says that she wants new clothes for her birthday, buy her a pencil instead. And when she gets upset that all she got was a pencil and she asks you why, tell her that it was because she has lied to you so much, that you didn't trust that what she really wanted was new clothes. And maybe if she can learn to be honest with you in the future, then you can begin to trust her judgement again, hopefully. 

For example, Reverse Psychology! Love it! ha 

I agree with Peachy, break her down to absolutely nothing (except necessities. Ditto.. I went to school, came home, did my chores, and went to my room. All that was in my room was my bed, bedding, dresser, and clothes. If I kept it up or did anything then I would have to do extra chores. 

All that was in my room was my bed, bedding, dresser, and clothes. That's what we did with our oldest daughter...her response was sneaking out the window. Open the lines of communication the best you can. Sit down and have a family meeting. Let her know she doesn't need to feel threatened and let her speak. Get everything out on the table. Communication-good luck :) If that doesn't work, then shake her lol 

Lil 05~ your biggie is the same age as mine. Girls are so tough with all the body canges and added hormones. My princess doesn't lie but we do have horrible mood swings here and lots of tears. Hang in there it will get better. Stay consistant and on top of things even though it can be tedious. My motto is firm, fair and consistant. 

I wasnt the best kid growing up, I snuck out twice, lol and my punishment was going to work on the farm with my dad for a whole summer, that was TORTURE!! But I turned out to be a good kid! Have you ever watched Strict Parents? maybe you could get some ideas from that :) Good Luck 

they have boot camp for kids.....send her over the summer... 

i went through that phase as a teenager, and i have to say, i would lie about things that i thought i would get in trouble for... i was always getting in trouble over little things, and i felt like i couldnt do anything right... there was little to no communication with my parents, and if there was it was all negative.. do you give her attention when she does things right? it could be that she doesnt feel like she gets enough attention, so shes going about it by getting negative attention, or acting out in school to get attention from her peers... when was the last time you had bonding time with her? i would try maybe going on a horse back ride, and really talking to her... at that age they are coming in to their own and want to feel more grown up... try telling her about your life at that age, maybe mistakes you have made and learned from.. become more approachable to her... 

If its actual problem, like not just general teen angst take her to a therapist. It could be that she has a mental disorder or it very well may be the dynamics of your relationship. If she thinks you dont understand her or judge her too harshly she will keep lying. Boot camp wont help a psychological disorder. There is never NO REASON for the behavior. 

My niece has a problem with lying. She told my dad straight out " I have no problem with lying to anybody." but it finally caught up to her because she got expelled from school because she accused a teacher of strong holding her. and eventually she admitted to lying about it all. Now she's homeschooled but I don't think she's really been disciplined by my sister or brother-n-law. good luck.